It is Lammas, the cross-quarter point between solstice and equinox. The reign of the Sun King is on the wane. The clients I see at 7pm I now need to turn on the lights for and I’m no longer waking early with the sun. This week, for the first time, I can sense the dark waiting just off stage.
I graduated high school early, desperately wanting to escape the confines of my family and
My wonder at meeting Jan was akin to how Harold felt when he met Maude. She was older than my mother, with four children and a Russian husband who’d been Igor in his homeland, but was Harry to all of us. They’d been beatniks in
Jan taught me how to cook a big meal in the midst of chaos, the magic of fresh and local produce, the value of a raging and laughing debate over dinner, and how to always cook more than you need in case a hungry artist suddenly stops by. She taught me the value of having a home where friends feel welcomed and where the art of the spontaneous party is constantly being improved upon.
Living with Jan I learned the movement of the tides ,when to go out digging for clams and where to find the hand-blown glass floats the Japanese current brings in. Over the sink there was always some cuttings taking root, and nature never stopped at her doorway. Her house was full of art, books, garage sale treasures, rocks, feathers, shells, and other assorted found objects. At any point in time at least one room was torn apart in some kind of long-term remodeling project, and evenings were just as likely to end up with a living room of people dancing wildly to a record of African or Cuban drumming as end up with a dinner party taking crowbars to the tiles in the bathroom.
Jan died of congestive heart failure a few days ago. I am flying to
We are. Jan is gone, but her star shines brightly. Dying at Lammas seems right and fitting for this force of nature I was blessed to know. There are so many incredible friends and family members that have been part of the constellation of my life, that shine on and through me. Some, like Jan, are dead. Some I have lost contact with, or moved out of my life for a myriad of reasons. But still, how they shine! We are made up of our relationships to other beings - out of the same carbon as stars. Soon I will be in Cannon Beach, saying good-bye to Jan, and toasting to her memory with people I haven't seen in decades. You bet I will be looking to the night sky while I am there. We shine, especially in the darkest of times. Oh, how we shine!
7 comments:
Blessings be upon you in your time of grief.
Remember that as you slide down into the dark half, we're busy opening up to the light again down here - for a short time.
Love,
Terri in Joburg
The repeater bead in our Spiralheart prayer beads is, "Our wealth abides in our relationships."
What a treasure Jan has been to you, dearest Oak. And by her hand upon you, you have enriched those in your life, so I see we are *all* in her debt.
May your journey of grief and joy be blessed. And a blessed Lughnassadh to you.
-- Beth
oh, Deborah...
I want to be Jan when *I* grow up, too. :) Blessings on you in your time of grief. And big hugs, too!
What a gorgeous tribute. I hope the memorial is a blessing. Hugs to you.
A beautiful post for a beautiful lady.
I will be thinking of you on Saturday.
All my love
xx
May the Goddess guard her. May she find her way to the Summerlands. May her friends and family know peace.
What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful person. I wish Ihad known her, but then, through you perhaps I do. May her star continue to burn bright; many blessings for her, her family and you.
Anne-Marie
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